Work –Life balance

 

Before I return back to work I need a plan. All Mommies struggle with the same questions – How will I manage work, and my children? Who will pick up the kids while I’m working? What is the fastest dish I can make, what I can cook for tonight? When Am I going to check their homework?

Of course it’s nice if you have an employer who offers a flexible time for you, but you have to be flexible on your time as well. Just because you leave earlier doesn’t mean that you work less. Right? You can offer that you are working while the baby is having a nap or you’ll be online in evenings when kids have gone to bed.

1. First off, you need help. It’s a great time to get more involve husbands or grandparents  or someone close to the kids. Also good idea to ask older children to take part of the housework as well.

2. Second is to plan ahead, be a great time manager of your own life. Make a schedule for daily routines and make sure you have some time for the kids too.

3. Maybe it’s time to consider a few things and make a new priority in your life.

4. Put away your guilt. Go back to work seems like it’s not as much of an issue for the kids - rather it’s a big deal for Mommies. Therefore spend as much valuable time with them as you can.

5.  Make some time to yourself. We are not super hero's so we do need some break as well. Being selfish not just necessary sometimes, but you deserve it too!

There you go…I’ve got my plan already! Overall going back to work is not a tragedy only another challenge of my life.

Human’ values

Recently I started looking around for hi-tech jobs, to see what kind of position I might find. Position requirements are frequently difficult match as described. You must be:

• Flexible
• Open-minded
• Willing to work hard
• Be nice

It’s easy to get confused to see if I'm reaching the right criteria’s. So I jumped into reading recruiter's advices on how to write good resume. How can you be the one out of the many? 

 

I also found different courses where you can learn techniques how to behave in an interview. For example body language, or how to use the tone of your voice. Important thing to show a future employer that you are the most attractive candidate in the world.

If I’m sure that I am a good candidate they must see it too. But why doesn’t it work that way? I guess after many refusals people are less motivated. And I wonder if the real problem is why do you want to find a job in the first place. Is it to earn money or find some sense for your life?

I surfed one article to another I ended up reading about successes stories where people get good jobs. I always love reading, and thinking about these stories. What made them so big? What were their paths so far? What kind of compromises they make or what they did not make? What did they do that most of us do not?

I read the articles carefully to see if I can find some secrets. They mentioned:

• Hard work
• Persistence
• Respect of work
• Humility
• Flexibility
• Adoptions
• Be brave
• Be the first one when look for challenges.

Share knowledge with others:

• Be a team worker
• Encourage others
• Never give up, no matter what you do.

Hmm...Interesting, no one mentioned luck. This seems to be an easy recipe for success. Or just different mind-set? I think most importantly is self-confidence that what I am doing -  who I am is valuable.

So I’m watching my youngest boy playing in the back yard. He’s only 15 months old not much plan for the future yet. But his T-shirt it says ’ Future Ceo’ and I smile and think to myself – what’s if it so?

I guess the future starts here and now.

Unemployment – Sleeping Beauty woke up, and was sent back to work

We are officially informed that unemployment can reach 11.3% this year, however according to unofficial data this can be as much as 50%. The state of unemployment is not new – so shall blame the Financial Crisis? - in fact Unemployment has reached a 16 years peak.

 

 

Although several positions have been posted by companies sometime I have got a feeling it’s posted to someone else already.  To get a nice job you need experience and new skills right? Companies look for motivated, creative candidates who can achieve unrealistic expectations. But how do you get motivated if you haven’t been able to work for 2 or 3 years? Why study and get new skill training, if the skills are never enough for the employers to hire you. Also what happens when all the training you take makes you over educated? And what about my dream job, I can get hired, but never make enough money to pay my bills doing this work. Do I work where I want to?, or work where I have to so I get paid enough to pay my bills?

Many Hungarians struggle with same questions and under sell their live. But that’s not a reason to give up, really something is still missing….a kind of mind-set, I would say.

It’s hard to understand how such a great nation like Hungary, cannot stand up on its feet? When you look around your home, walk the street, look up the sky you always find something that was invented by a Hungarian. Did you know that the following inventions are Hungarian? The noiseless safety-match, The biro (ball point pen), helicopter, carburetor, H-bomb, Ascorbic Acid or Vitamin C and so many more.

Definitely we have brains but do we have self-provisioning ability as well?

Maybe it comes back to the historical fact that we have been looked after for so many centuries, by others. Capitalism in Hungary has grown up it’s - 18 years since we have had this ‘new’ system – Hungarians are still having a hard time to look after themselves however. Older generation – like my parents-couldn’t catch up with the new challenges such as saving money and self-provisioning. Sad, but true!

I guess Sleeping Beauty Hungary was woken up and sent to work, but the world hasn’t taught her how to do it. Someone always took care of her, she finds it difficult to stands her own feet.